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Quitting jobs

Everyone has a job they don't like and whenever someone complains about the job that they do, there's always are going to be handfuls of people saying "QUIT UR JOB!" not really caring about whether it'll benefit the complainer or not.

Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets. No savings. No jobs lined up. Nothing planned. You are putting yourself back to a place of uncertainty and it's not pleasant when that countdown starts. That countdown is tied to how much you have left to cover your expenses fully until you get another job and how long those expenses will pile up.

Because all it takes is one or two missed paychecks to upset your financial stability and the system you've made in how you pay for things.

For some people, unfortunately, quitting jobs is not as simple of an option. People are just jammed into where they are because their job market is poor or it's highly competitive even when they went to college for that job.

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[-] athairmor@lemmy.world 108 points 4 weeks ago

“Don’t take that raise, it’ll put you in a higher tax bracket!”

Some people who don’t understand tax brackets actually believe this is good advice.

[-] AlecSadler@sh.itjust.works 32 points 4 weeks ago

I'd say about 20% of people I encounter, including people in my immediate family, still believe this.

My uncle believes this and has made life decisions based on it ... but has a financial advisor. So either that advisor sucks or he hasn't actually discussed finances with them.

[-] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 12 points 3 weeks ago

For anyone here who doesn't understand why this is bad advice, it's because income tax increases only apply to income made above that threshold.

Let's do a simple example and pretend there's only 2 tax brackets. From 0-50k tax is 10% and over 50k it's 20%.

If you make exactly 50k your tax burden will be 5k and you'll take home 45k a year.

If you get a 1k raise, only the final thousand is taxed at the higher rate, so your tax burden will be 5200 (10% of the first 50k and 20% of the remainder), and you'll take home 45,800 a year.

So even though you change tax brackets, you still make more money.

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[-] callouscomic@lemm.ee 5 points 4 weeks ago

The same people who think they pay federal tax dollars cause they never realize they get it all back and then some.

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[-] donuts@lemmy.world 58 points 4 weeks ago

Maybe not poor at its core, but poor phrasing nonetheless: "just be yourself!"

What we should say is: stop trying to force yourself to fit in. You are enough as you are. Embrace your quirks, passions, and individuality without feeling the need to conform to what others expect. It's not about "just being yourself" in a vacuum; it's about freeing yourself from the pressure to mold into something you're not.

The beauty of authenticity is in the courage to show up as you are, without apology.

[-] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 26 points 4 weeks ago

All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn't require losing their individuality.

Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don't understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.

[-] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 12 points 4 weeks ago

I think "Just be the best version of yourself" is a better phrasing.

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[-] SSUPII@sopuli.xyz 8 points 4 weeks ago

I really like this answer! Absolutely gorgeous response. Confidence is massively important for being happy with oneself, and that starts by understanding you are a singular original human.

[-] invalidname@lemmy.world 7 points 4 weeks ago

The retort to that is, “be yourself, unless you’re and arsehole, then be someone else”

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[-] Moreless@lemmy.world 7 points 4 weeks ago

You still need to follow your society's expected behaviors. Like showering or wearing shoes in public venues.

A big problem is people not picking up certain queues and being ostracized then continuing to follow "be yourself." It's a downward spiral.

  1. Learn to fit in
  2. Learn when and where "rules" can be bent/broken
  3. Then be yourself
[-] someacnt_@lemmy.world 4 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

This also depends on the society you are living in. Good luck with "being yourself" in north korea, or even any east asian countries.

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[-] Vanth@reddthat.com 53 points 4 weeks ago

You have one soul mate out there. One true love. One person, so you better compromise to make sure it works. Especially when the alleged "one" is telling you to comply. That way lies abuse.

[-] AlecSadler@sh.itjust.works 22 points 4 weeks ago

"God will bring the right person into your life"

I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don't even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don't understand.

I guess maybe if it's the pizza delivery guy or something...

"I've sent Bill, who's a really great guy btw, back to Home Depot three times to buy a part that he already has two of at home but your dumb ass just sits on the couch every night instead of thinking 'gee, I should probably repaint my hideous living room.' But you know what? It's fine. Bill deserves someone who will actually take some initiative instead of sitting there binging Grey's Anatomy every night like 'GoD wIlL bRiNg ThE rIgHt PeRsOn InTo My LiFe'. --God (Probably)

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[-] futatorius@lemm.ee 4 points 3 weeks ago

I can't imagine any relationship working without some degree of compromise. But as to the other part of your comment, I've found The One several times in my life. They were right at the time, there was a deep connection, and later, things changed. But it was real and I don't regret a minute of any of those times.

[-] ramble81@lemm.ee 28 points 4 weeks ago

Getting married, thinking it’ll improve your situation. Nope it’ll just solidify what’s there.

[-] Num10ck@lemmy.world 16 points 4 weeks ago

a good marriage drastically improves your life. a bad marriage will obliterate it.

[-] futatorius@lemm.ee 4 points 3 weeks ago

A good marriage can be a good (but not essential) step in a good relationship.

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[-] riskable@programming.dev 26 points 4 weeks ago

"Listen to your body" No, that's how you get fat. Your body wants to build up fat! That's how we survived famines. Famines that don't happen anymore.

Listen to your doctor instead 👍

[-] SSUPII@sopuli.xyz 16 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

That is not bad advice

You want to listen to your body because it tells you way more things than just feeling hungry. That is a gross simplification of that suggestion, almost assuming human bodies are machines.

Bad advice in this context is saying "you are gonna be happier if you lost weight" or "you are gonna look better if you lost weight". That is extremely personal and changes person to person, some might even feel worse.

Listening to a doctor's concerns is for everyone with no exclusions, but feeling good in oneself's body is another different topic that needs to be tackled appropriately.

[-] credo@lemmy.world 15 points 4 weeks ago

Listening to your body is meant in the context of over-exercising though. It’s not a blanket get out of exercise card. That’s called “listening to your brain”.

[-] olafurp@lemmy.world 14 points 4 weeks ago

Listening to the body is a rule of thumb. If you feel bad after eating/drinking something it's probably not good for you. If you cough from something in the air it's not healthy to inhale.

It's especially true in high octane workout culture like cross-fit, if it hurts then don't continue, this is how you end up with a herniated disc.

That being said, if you're on heroin you shouldn't listen to the body. Same with cigarettes, junk food, sugary drinks, candy etc. because the body is a dopamine whore.

[-] Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world 13 points 4 weeks ago

Don't listen to food adverts. Broccoli doesn't have a marketing budget.

[-] remon@ani.social 14 points 4 weeks ago
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[-] m0darn@lemmy.ca 12 points 4 weeks ago

Listen to your body, assess how its feedback comports with your goals, then use your brain to decide what to do.

[-] 01011@monero.town 7 points 4 weeks ago

Listen to your body as in observe your body and how it responds to activity, certain foods, medications and environments. That's good advice. There are many bad doctors out there.

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[-] Num10ck@lemmy.world 6 points 4 weeks ago

famines are increasingly likely.

[-] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 24 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

On Reddit, the answer is always "Break up."

[-] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 9 points 3 weeks ago

Break up!

Grab a brush and put a little make up!

[-] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 9 points 4 weeks ago

"Guys I just hooked up my new set of 5.1 speakers and I'm getting a little buzzing in the subwoofer I can't track down, what do I do?"

"You should break up, he's totally cheating on you."

[-] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 19 points 4 weeks ago

Compare yourself to the people you see in the movies.

You never see Lara Croft or John Wick get the hiccups. If you do it's because you're a jerk and everyone will laugh at you.

[-] Num10ck@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago

creatural realism. thats why i love die hard, hero gets hurt a lot.

[-] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 6 points 4 weeks ago

Runs 100 yards barefoot through broken glass.

[-] eran_morad@lemmy.world 18 points 4 weeks ago
[-] lvxferre@mander.xyz 15 points 4 weeks ago

Anything that boils down to "stop thinking". For example "have faith in the future", "follow your guts", "YOLO".

Being stuck because of worrying and overthinking is not a good place. Calls to action are the only way to improve the situation.

[-] lvxferre@mander.xyz 6 points 3 weeks ago

Acting is essential. However, acting is not mutually exclusive with thinking; in fact if someone acts without thinking they're likely only causing themself and the others harm.

And this sort of advice is rarely about "think then act", it's always "don't think, only act".

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[-] antlion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 4 weeks ago

Believe in Karma. Life is not fair. It never will be.

[-] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 6 points 4 weeks ago

Karma in the west is grossly misunderstood anyway. pisses me off

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[-] BilboBargains@lemmy.world 13 points 4 weeks ago

At first sign of calamity immediately stock up on toilet paper.

[-] sit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

If you receive letters demanding payments… just don’t open them, they will sort themselves out.

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[-] leaky_shower_thought@feddit.nl 10 points 4 weeks ago

Obligatory: "YOLO", it is true we only live once -- so make it count.

"Big boys/girls don't cry"

This is some archaic-level advice similar to "pull up your bootstraps" that most people may have these already ingrained as part of growing up. It is fine to cry and show others [you trust] your feelings, no matter how old you are. More importantly, the better advice is to "take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being" and "be kind to yourself".

[-] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 4 points 4 weeks ago

Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets.

I quit work at 35 and now 58. My only regret in life is not quitting earlier. I get mo pensions or welfare or inheritance, I'm just mindful of spending and ever since I was 19 I invested small amounts of surplus income in stocks and shares that ballooned over the decades to large amounts.

Frugality includes all the other virtues.” – Cicero

[-] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

With that age you experienced most of the stock explosions and multiple splits (e.g. Amazon, Apple, Broadcom, Nvidia etc.).
No way in hell I could live from my 10k of stocks on dividends and I am aggressively investing as I still am allowed to live at home (graciously btw) to build up some savings.

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