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[-] dan1101@lemm.ee 80 points 1 year ago
[-] Kindnessworks@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago

I agree ; -)

[-] jeena@jemmy.jeena.net 71 points 1 year ago
[-] WackyTabbacy42069@reddthat.com 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I so feel this. Whenever someone has a smart niche, whether it's just reading a lot or being skilled at something like maths, they become sooo much more attractive to me

[-] kambusha@feddit.ch 68 points 1 year ago
[-] otter@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 year ago

Yep, even if someone doesn't know something it's perfect if they're open to learning more :)

They don't have to be interested in every topic, it's the openness that goes a long way

[-] Lettuceeatlettuce@lemmy.ml 61 points 1 year ago

Passion for something. It′s such a turnoff when you are talking to somebody and they aren't interested in anything.

Current events? Meh. Books? Meh. Films/Shows? Meh.

I don't care if it's stamp collecting or chewing gum flavors or the history of wallpaper design, just be passionate or interested in something. At least we can converse for while on that topic.

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[-] pornhubfan@sh.itjust.works 45 points 1 year ago
[-] overzeetop@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

I married my wife because she was the first person to teach me to laugh at myself.

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[-] Rottcodd@lemmy.ninja 40 points 1 year ago

To borrow the new age term, an old soul.

There are just people who possess a sort of cynically detached understanding of the world and people. They aren't fired by largely pointless passion or desire, they're intelligent and perceptive enough to generally understand things and emotionally mature enough to generally accept them and they have a way of just sort of gliding through life, maintaining a relatively even keel instead of getting distracted and disconcerted by irrelevancies.

Every single person I've ever known who was like that has been or is special to me.

[-] fishcurry509@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I love your way of describing it, more than anything else!

[-] argv_minus_one@beehaw.org 36 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Authorship of open-source GPU drivers.

[-] somegeek@programming.dev 5 points 1 year ago

Ah. The dream wife of all geeks

[-] vd1n@sh.itjust.works 36 points 1 year ago

General open-mindedness/respect/mindfullness.

[-] STUPIDVIPGUY@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

Yes mindfulness. Self awareness.

[-] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 36 points 1 year ago
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[-] Quatity_Control@lemm.ee 33 points 1 year ago

Having an interest in sharing something with you without making you feel stupid about it.

Went to about art museum with a guy, and he was super excited to tell me about certain pieces and artists and their history. He was very kind when I asked questions about things that were probably very obvious to a more studious person.

Was on his arm by the end of the date. Absolutely smitten!

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[-] alex@jlai.lu 23 points 1 year ago

Can make smart and educated jokes. Will laugh at fart jokes.

[-] Flyberius@hexbear.net 21 points 1 year ago
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[-] WiildFiire@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago

Empathy and I can't find a single word to describe it but being able to understand and recognize other sides of opinions or arguments/debates, respectfully of course

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[-] WoofWoof91@hexbear.net 16 points 1 year ago
[-] Washburn@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

The cut of their jib

[-] DeltaTangoLima@reddrefuge.com 16 points 1 year ago

Someone who doesn't impose their will, beliefs, or anything else on another person.

My ex wife worked very hard at changing me, until I barely recognised who I was. My now wife let me be myself again, and I will forever lover her for that.

[-] 23Spiders@ttrpg.network 14 points 1 year ago

Emotional Maturity + sincerity + charisma is a winning combo

[-] xilliah@beehaw.org 12 points 1 year ago
[-] HappyMeatbag@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago

A good sense of humor.

[-] AntiOutsideAktion@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago

I'd say it's a tie between humor and emotional maturity

[-] trufax@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago

Surprised good sense of humor or wit aren’t on here yet. Playfully sparring with someone or laughing until it hurts when you hang around a person are a turn on.

[-] Dubious_Fart@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

A good personality.

Its the single most important characteristic someone needs to have.

I like to imagine the people downvoting this are vapid, miserable assholes who are angry because every relationship they've ever had has failed, in flames, because their now ex partners told them they have awful personalities.

[-] akulium@feddit.de 9 points 1 year ago

good personality

uses most of the words in the comment to wish everyone who downvotes a terrible and miserable life

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[-] Lemjukes@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago

The most attractive quality a person can have is being into me.

[-] lorez@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago

Wit for men. There's nothing sexier than making a woman laugh. Sheer intelligence for women. Once I had an erection listening to my ex gf reasoning.

[-] Surp@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

Being nice and kind to everyone most of the time. Being positive.

[-] wtypstanaccount04@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

Cute laugh or giggle

[-] dylanTheDeveloper@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Doesn't beat me or slap my nuts with a spatula

[-] queermunist@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago
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[-] const_void@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

Independence

[-] Ram_The_Manparts@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago
[-] SethranKada@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 year ago

Intelligence, and a shared interest. It's almost impossible for me to care about someone who doesn't even know how to use their own devices.

[-] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 year ago

I like people who demonstrate the capability to think independently and come up with original ideas. The opposite of this are people with whom I only need to hear your stance on few subjects after which I know what you think about everything else too. If you agree with your friends about most things you're probably not very interesting person. Same applies if you disagree about most things too.

[-] geoma@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

The way of using their voice

[-] DerKriegs@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

Ah yes, I too value the mastery of the Thu'um in my partner.

[-] NENathaniel@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

Def curisity and a desire to learn/improve in basically any way.

[-] Imgonnatrythis@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago
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