Eehh I kinda disagree. Autism is better to describe my sensory issues and my inability to correctly verbalize what I mean, as well as trouble with facial expressions.
The disorder part is there not only because it makes it harder to interact with people, but because of different information processing (natural or societal). Kinda like how epilepsy is also technically because of difference in information processing.
The conflict isn't just because neurotypicals made the rules. It's because they have an easier time forming a set of rules and following them collectively (hence the etymology of the word autism). Different cultures have different rules, and neurotypicals can adjust well. Some people may have subteler difficulties, but even then, it never becomes dehabiliting to a certain point, that point being what is the difference between someone with autism and someone without.
Of course that definition makes no scientifical sense. Tf do they mean "supposed to"? We aren't supposed to do jack shit. And how do you tell which one an intersex person is supposed to be lmao? Because they have female genetalia, they should carry eggs, but what if they're XY? Does that mean they're supposed to carry sperm?