Oh the scene/secquence? From Tim Burton's "Big Fish" when he gets the dad back in the water. That was so wholesome but so sad at the same time.

Hello fellow non life goal setter! Having that life goal mentality fucked me up for years, went to therapy and learned to live in the present while trying not to obsess about the future. So now little things are what keeps me going: Getting to yoga class, fixing a nice plate of food if I feel like it, petting my dogs, crocheting so I feel thr burden of the stuff that has to get done a little less.

You are spot on!

I had to hire a nutrionist who specializes in it to help identify hunger cues ane what they meant. I had an eating disorder growing up and Adhd on top of it so I could go days without food and not notice and also binge uncontrollably until I made myself sick.

She showed me how to navigate and I will be forever grateful.

Aways come down to their height level when you talk to them so you can show them and read their facial non verbal language, you want to be on their same eye level but not on their face. Don't stare or make too intense eye contact.

Pick a topic and see how much enthusiasm the kid shows, that can be a useful clue to see if you re going the right way with your interaction. Take into account that some kids (and some adults too!) don't like interacting at all and that is also fine.

Some popular ones are: Dinosaurs, pets, tv shows/videogames, favorite color, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite song, favorite book.

Hope this helps.

That image of the contrast between the blizzard and the twinkling lights is beautiful OP.

Oh I've been there too! Read about it while planning my pregnancy. It made me feel so paranoic that I got the test done twice just in case. I never got sick with it, but paranoia was a removed.

Since then I have gotten mental health help to deal with anxiety etc.

How can one be afraid of something and still enjoy doing it? I like snorkeling and have done it many times, love the feeling of weightlessnes and how quiet it all is, I plan vacations around the whole thing BUT everytime I am about to do it all of my body starts shaking like crazy, blood pumping, ears ringing, the works. Nothing has ever happened to me while doing it and I have never witnessed like an accident or something traumatic like that.

Oh! Also, not a fan of black dark places in water, like you go on by yourself and explore that place where a gigantic eel probably lives I'm gonna stay put right here.

Some foods should not be touching other foods but I can't use one of those cafeteria trays because the texture makes me gag.

My solution to it is using glass or ceramic plates and bowls for each item. There are exceptions of course.

Silverware is another thing altogether.

Oh do you have any Lola pictures?

Preparing myself for having my own child and deeply comprehend how much abuse I had endured and how fucked up it is to do that to anyone, but especially your own kid. Then educate myself and stay in therapy (repeat as necessary) so I could deliver my absolute best to my kid. It really dawned on me how much of my childhood was pure survival and getting rid of some of those coping mechanisms has been very hard.

The original Lisbeth Salander from the european movies!

Whenever I come across a person in one of those driving school vehicles, I take my time to be extra nice to them and helping them a bit in a way.