• Wednesday a local side friend finally came over to say hello. Younger guy, 23, that really wanted to meet for a while. Nice couple of hours together. I didn't want to cum (another eager oral bottom was planning to come by), but our meetup was too hot I couldn't help it.
• This weekend I traveled out of state to attend a weekend tantric workshop :-)
  • The program is run by Body Electric which I recommend if you're interested in exploring erotic energy
  • This program was just for men, and it was a fun and very diverse group. The 10 of us spent most of the weekend together naked. Real personal stories were shared, and I got to know these men really well.
  • I invited J in LA but he couldn't make it :-( so I wore one of his shirts I accidentally took the last time we met up.
  • We were asked to avoid ejaculation is possible for the duration of the weekend, which I did, with great difficulty.
  • The focus was on learning breath, movement, touch, and release. And ultimately combining them all.
  • The final erotic massage was an amazing experience. With the blindfold, the music, the massage table, so many hands on my body, and my breathing, I was completely in the moment. I know the facilitator was giving instructions, but at the final "release" portion I was entirely somewhere else. No ejaculation, but something happened. I was outside of my own body. I felt things. Intense deep sensations that I would liken to a traditional orgasm, but rather than feeling exhausted afterwards, I also felt energized.

Still laid off :-( and spending most of the time on Long Island with my family, however:

• Friday got away from home to meet a sexy smooth guy who was down for some oral fun. Said he's "hung4hung" and I guess he was a good size, but I don't even know if I'm hung, and he was smaller than me. Fun to suck though!
  • I rimmed him, and is was a lot of fun to have his balls pressed against my nose while I was eating his tight ass. Ultimately I came from him sucking me (hands free) while my tongue was deep in his hole. He came after that by jerking off while I was rimming him.
  • We hung out for a bit and chatted while playing with his adorable and sweet dog who was curled up on the couch. It turns out he went to the same high school as me a few years later, and knows one of our family friends, who has the same name as me and was his class's salutatorian.
  • He also remembers attending my graduation because his cousin was graduating that year (I remember the cousin). And he remembers seeing me because I gave the valedictorian speech. Long Island is a small place sometimes :-)
  • We'll stay in touch. His husband is good looking, too so maybe we do some group stuff. Would be fun!
• Saturday I went into the city. A friend's friend was hosting a special dance party for millennials who like to go to bed on time - starts 5pm ends 10pm, and includes pizza at the end.
  • I invited R to join, but he correctly suggested that he wants more 1/1 time with me before a party dynamic with friends.
  • I only knew my one friend there, and something about the crowd and about me, it was really fun. While dancing I found so many people (men and women) to be very sexy. And for the first time I felt comfortable just dancing freely, and if people were objectifying me and finding me sexy, I didn't mind that either. A couple of ladies made some flirty comments which were fun. One small and tight twinky guy was dancing in suspenders -- pretty sure he was on something, or I would have used those suspenders to pull him in tight against me :-)
  • Our group stayed out and it turns out it's a very kinky group of men and women! We hung out in an apartment discussing poly and kink relationships, sexual boundaries and consent, dom/sub dynamics, penises and vaginas, and so much more. This was a big deal for me. I've never had a conversation with a woman/women which was so open and transparent. It was such a turn on. They are all beautiful women, too. One of the guys, too ;-)
  • We have a kinky/sex group chat now, full of discussions of orgasm goals, eating pussy, double entendres (hot sauce tastings?). This should be very interesting.
• Got home at 4am, ate some ice cream and chips, slept at 5am, and had to wake up at 6am for family stuff lol. I'm very excited to sleep tonight.

Yes they're terrible because they work. I remember one thing I liked about /r/aww was they banned titles like "Are iguanas allowed here?" Or "isn't my Fido cute?" It helped the sub's quality and I think it was one of the best default subs over on that website.

Back in the city, and though focused on work, still got up to some naughty stuff:

• Met up with a random desi guy near my office. We had a good chat, I rimmed him, and fucked him for a bit, though I didn't plan to. Finished by jacking off into his hole, and he came himself right after. I dunno, probably won't see him again. The chemistry wasn't great.
• I was chatting with a match on Hinge, R. He ended up finding me on Grindr lol. His apartment is close to my office so I went over. R and I have a lot in common, We mostly chatted, with a few nice gentle kissing sessions punctuating our conversation. He had his legs draped over my lap. It was so relaxed and sensual and I really enjoyed it. I was there about 1.5 hours. R and I exchanged numbers and will maybe try a more proper "date" instead of just a cuddle and a kiss. He did notice how hard I got during our goodbye kiss ;-)
• Saturday was Naked Gaymers Night in Hoboken, hosted by a guy that runs this event monthly. 47 guys, played some video games, had some drinks and food, and did a white elephant gift exchange. Most of the guys weren't really my type (chubs and bears), but a few were very hot. Topped a guy for a bit, couldn't keep my hands (and mouth) off this other lean blonde, came once in one guys mouth, then once more with another guy who was squeezing my balls as we were both lying down and making out on the futon while a bunch of guys played Smash Bros in the same room :-P
  • I got really hard from my goodbye makeout session when the lean blonde was leaving, so someone was quick to get on their knees and take care of me. It made his early departure sting a little less.
  • When we went from underwear to totally naked (about an hour in) it felt so much more comfortable. I felt freed and unrestricted
  • The compliments I got were really good for me
  • Got numbers for a few of these guys so we can stay in touch and meet up
• Sunday connected with a guy who is looking to be FWBs, so he came over and we chatted for a couple of hours. Nice guy, lean tall side/bottom. We're open to figuring out if we can be friends and how to add the benefits in.
• After he left I couldn't sleep and was feeling pretty horny. Two guys invited me to their hotel room around 5am for some fun, so I went. It was weird.
  • Younger guy was smooth, and had nice muscle
  • Older guy didn't join in, and had some kind of glass drug thing he was using. They asked if I smoked, I said no, and I don't know what that is, they said don't worry about it.
  • Younger guy gives a really nice BJ. We fooled around for about 50 minutes or so, with him taking poppers from time to time. It was fun to tease his hole or rim him while he worked on me.
  • Older guy comes back in the room and says it's time to wrap it up, so I cum with the younger guy getting a good taste of my balls, it was pretty hot.
  • That was all strange enough that I've blocked that profile on Grindr now.
  • I got a smoked salmon, avocado, and fried egg sandwich on a bagel on the way home around 6am :-)

I was busy with the family mostly with Thanksgiving being this week. Also on Sunday I was planning to meet someone from Grindr just for a casual hello, but I got very sick. And I'm still sick!

• J and I continue to text back and forth, twice I guided him through jacking off, sending new pics back and forth but also recounting how we spent our time together, and all the thoughts sensations and emotions we packed into those few sessions. He might be coming into NYC in a few weeks. He really wants to spend another week together. We discussed that while he wants me to be his top, that he's open to flipping sometimes and breeding me, too. I like him, and I think I'd like that. He is about as well hung as me, so it will be a fun challenge!
• New experience: flipping! I really wanted some action this week, but here on Long Island not many people can host since they're living with (or visiting) their parents. There's a local top who really wanted me to top him, and I couldn't pass that up.
  • He leaked precum like a dripping faucet it was fun! His penis is significantly shorter than mine but also much much thicker. He took a lot of time to open up, and at one point he fell asleep while I had a finger inside him. That was weird! I asked him if he was on anything, but he said nothing other than the poppers I saw him using.
  • He was a great fuck once we got going. We both found it all very pleasurable. He came when I told him to, and I came inside him just moments later. I gave him a kiss and said "Happy Thankgiving!" and he said, "Am I the turkey?" 😂
  • Once we both relaxed and were ready to go again, he suggested I fuck him again, but on a whim I suggested that we change positions. And y'all, I enjoyed the experience! I don't know if it was because I topped him first or I just felt more connected, but I even stayed nice and hard while he was fucking me. He finished in an unusual position, with me on my back and him on his side, locking his one arm with my one leg. I'll have to try it.
• omg it's a small town wtf I get a message from an adorable side on Grindr, and we realize he's a few years younger but went to the same high school. Oh his brother is the same year as me, oh also in the band, same instrument, oh dang: his older brother is my high school friend! And when I went to his birthday party, and the younger brother was there 20 years ago! We decided that's fine with us, and still plan to meet up. He's such a sweet guy, and we're both still into each other. 🙈

I wonder if Lemmy could/would ever get the ability for only subscribers of a community to downvote its content?

I like making out irl (a lot) and porn gets it all wrong. It's way too hard and fast and exaggerated. I guess it makes sense since it's for the cameras. It also explains why men are worse at making out than women (on average).

Okay, I'll share, too. This was now many years ago, so some of it will definitely seem foreign to you all.

I've known I was bi for a while, but I had remained celibate through much of my 20s. Finally at 26 I decided "fuck it, let's do something with someone and just get the anxiety out of the way."

But who? And how? A few times I had browsed the men4men section on Craiglist, and I knew there were always guys looking to fool around. I decided not to jack off for about 1 week or more so that I was horny enough to make dumb decisions and actually make a move. I created a new email account and took some photos, and put a post out there. After a few false starts, a nice guy of the same ethnicity, a fellow grad student, and with a huge member reached out and we decided we'd meet up. He was also bi, and also inexperienced, so yeah let's stumble through this shit together.

We meet at a movie theater so we could end up watching a movie if we didn't feel like more, or we could mess around a little in the dark and see how things went. I had to look up the ending of the movie later because I couldn't really remember what happened, and we didn't stay until the end. Pretty quickly we started touching hands, and pretty quickly I got really really hard. So did he from what I could feel. We made out a little, and then decided to head back to my place, each in our own cars.

I came the first time right away while we were grinding against each other on the couch, but I don't think either of us realized it. We ended up fooling around all night. Just hands and mouths. He did rim me for a while which was fun. We 69'd, cuddled, kissed, chatted, frotted. Really just exploring our bodies and how they react to sensations and how our penises work -- his was uncut and I'm circumcised so we were both fascinated. I remember his had its own smell and taste so different from my own, and that was really fun. For an inexperienced guy he was also a surprisingly good cocksucker. After hours and hours, he didn't want me to cum in his hands but I was too close and let it go. He cum while jacking off with me standing behind him, biting his neck. He was a really big shooter, it was kind of fun to play with it all afterwards.

I know he really wanted to meet up more, but that was enough of that for me. It was like a seal was broken though, and I became a real sexual being. I ended up hooking up with a woman I met at a party just a few weeks later, I think because I felt confident that I can actually do that kind of stuff. She even became like a fwb for a little while. That's a story for another day, though.

Signed up for a bi/couples dating app and I'm blowing up. We will see if any of them turn into actual encounters. Some of these couples are really hot -I'm a little surprised they liked me back.

Update if you haven't seen it: they went to RICO!

Maybe that's the kink…

Being bi people kind of assume that I'm up for everything, and while I'll try anything once (probably twice) there are a few things that are definitely no: watersports, scat, and blood/gore.

I'm game for pretty much anything else, even in the BDSM world. I can see how they would be kinky fun. Those three though have something about them…

On your point: even without a prostate, a woman's anus and rectum have all kinds of nerve endings, and can even stimulate some of the nerves in the vagina. You could have a vibe or dildo in the vagina so the woman (and maybe man) can experience even more sensations. Finally, anal can bring a sense of deeper closeness because of how intimate it is. It can also be about power if you're into that.

Horniness is weird. When you're horny and with a willing partner, you kind of want to do anything and everything you can, even sometimes stuff that would gross you out during post-nut clarity. Embrace the moment. Embrace the horny.