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To the lonely people here... How do you survive these holidays? (lemmings.world)

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Xmas, new year, valentine's... Seems like the festivities are there just to remind me how much I failed as an adult man incapable of getting company. It's been over a decade since I've felt this way and nothing changes.

Alcohol and porn has lost its charm over the years.

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[-] EABOD25@lemm.ee 38 points 2 days ago

Not lonely anymore, but I spent about 10 years having every single holiday by myself. What worked for me personally was either ignore the holiday or just have an all-out bash on my own. I understand how it might not work for other people but celebrating on my own helped me learn that I should value my own time and appreciate what I can do for myself. If I ignored the holiday, it was because I didn't want to cook for myself.

There's no problem being alone as long as you value and appreciate what you can do alone.

Now with that being said, I spend the majority of my time with my wife now and she respects my time and space the way it is. I wouldn't have been able to find that if I didn't first respect myself and my own time and space

[-] RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

The bird will never land if you constantly stand guard to catch it, instead improve your ship and sail into warmer waters; the bird will land while you are not looking - CGP Grey

this post was submitted on 23 Dec 2024

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