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[-] weeeeum@lemmy.world 194 points 1 week ago

My grandpa told me "always call your boss sir, and respond "yes sir", youll be promoted real quick."

First day at my first job my boss tells me "by the way you don't need to call me sir, just Brian"

Its actually insane that the world that boomers lived in was that simple.

[-] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 81 points 1 week ago

Dutch has a formal and informal 2nd person word (think "you" vs "thou").

I have an intern who will not stop using the formal version, and it feels super awkward. I keep telling her to stop it, but she said she always uses with older people...

She's 23, I'm mid 30s. Ouch.

[-] RamblingPanda@lemmynsfw.com 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

At least she doesn't help you cross the street. Yet.

"Is your lunch soft enough? Should I cut it up for you? We have a blender back in the kitchen if you want?"

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[-] ThomasCrappersGhost@feddit.uk 57 points 1 week ago

“You need to keep phoning and sending letters to employers, they’ll give you a job eventually”.

[-] technomad@slrpnk.net 38 points 1 week ago

Lump that in with the 'apply in person' crowd too.

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[-] Wahots@pawb.social 31 points 1 week ago

Unless you are in the military or a sex dungeon, I wouldn't use "sir" these days. It's a bit odd in everyday life as culture has changed, haha.

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[-] friendlymessage@feddit.org 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

That advice could also be harmful to your career. Being subservient like that will make sure that your boss will never see you as an equal as e.g. a potential successor

[-] DrDystopia@lemy.lol 23 points 1 week ago

Sir Brian of Work

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[-] Boozilla@lemmy.world 180 points 1 week ago

"Find a job doing what you love, and you'll never work a day in your life."

I used to love software. Then all the Lumberghs took over.

[-] Lauchs@lemmy.world 41 points 1 week ago

How're your TPS reports coming along?

[-] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 22 points 1 week ago

In our next union agreement "only one unified timesheet ever" is a demand we're putting forth.

And you know for us to put that in the deal and see what it'll cost us in return, we're fucking fed up.

I feel like that's the same as a TPS report.

[-] weeeeum@lemmy.world 32 points 1 week ago

Hobbies always change when they become a job because it transitions from well thought out, interesting and creative projects to mass production and monotony.

As a hobbyist you have the ability to discover and work on unique, novel projects, without stress but professionalism is about consistency and speed.

Usually by running the business you can dedicate some time and resources to the fun and novel stuff. Thats how I run mine at least, as a woodworker. I don't crank out high grossing trendy stuff day and night but take the time to explore new ideas and get creative with it. That and using handtools instead of power tools.

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[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 21 points 1 week ago

Do you mean you used to like writing software by yourself, on creative projects that you were passionate about?

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[-] Speculater@lemmy.world 130 points 1 week ago

Happy wife, happy life. Marriage is about compromise and sometimes I want to be happy too.

[-] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 103 points 1 week ago

Happy spouse happy house is a better version. Both people should be happy.

[-] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 37 points 1 week ago

Happy mate. Happy estate.

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[-] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 33 points 1 week ago

Yeah old school relationships are insane. Always upset because of the "old ball and chain".

[-] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 38 points 1 week ago

I went out to drinks with older coworkers earlier in my career, and each time it was just constant wife bitching. Oh she does this, I hate that, old ball and chain. They came to me, I was in a long term relationship (who I'm now married to), and I just didn't have anything to share. Things were going fine. They laughed and said you just wait har har har.

Well, that was 10 years ago now. We're happily married, our marriage is full of compromise and mutual respect. We have tiffs, but never full on screaming matches. I still don't have anything major I'd share at a bar.

Them though, 3 of the 4 of them are now divorced. Maybe spending all of your time at the bar complaining about your wife wasn't the best for your marriage. But honestly too, good. If you hate them, why the hell are you married?!

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[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 120 points 1 week ago

If you're a quiet dedicated employee your value will be recognized and rewarded.

[-] Usernameblankface@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago

Yeah, that doesn't work well anymore. Gotta be a noisy dedicated worker, and be willing to move jobs a few times to start seeing the rewards

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[-] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 95 points 1 week ago

Working hard will get you far.

[-] ryathal@sh.itjust.works 25 points 1 week ago

This works as long as you apply some level of thought to it. Digging a ditch with a spoon is hard work, it's unlikely to help you get anywhere.

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[-] hperrin@lemmy.ca 94 points 1 week ago

Something along the lines of "don't ever go to bed angry at each other." Like, yeah, you should try to work it out, but if you fucked up real bad, don't push it. Sleep on the couch.

[-] DomeGuy@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago

Sleeping on the couch isnt gping to bed, though...

[-] Usernameblankface@lemmy.world 31 points 1 week ago

So, they technically didn't go to bed angry

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[-] Rednax@lemmy.world 81 points 1 week ago

"Fully empty your battery before charging it up again, it increases the lifespan of the battery."

This was true before lithium-ion batteries became the norm. But for lithium-ion batteries, the opposite holds.

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[-] Araithya@lemmy.world 67 points 1 week ago

“If you love something set it free, if it comes back it’s meant to be.” Nearly cost me the best relationship of my life because I was a dumb, impressionable kid that believed in wise sounding words. If you love something, hold on to it. Work for it. Don’t let it go just to “see if it comes back”.

Same could probably be said for just about any seemingly wise sounding sayings.

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[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 65 points 1 week ago

Go to a four year college so you can get the best jobs.

[-] exasperation@lemm.ee 57 points 1 week ago

Nah, that advice is still correct. The 4-year degree provides a huge benefit over not having it.

It's just that a lot of people don't realize just how much shittier not having a degree in 2024 is compared to not having a degree in 1974.

So while the baseline has gotten worse, and the actual benefit of college has shrunk, it's still easily worth the 4 year commitment and the tuition/opportunity cost.

[-] linux2647@lemmy.sdf.org 27 points 1 week ago

Counter-point: not everyone is cut out for a four-year degree*. Some people are better suited for trade schools. My wife worked at a university and saw a number of students that were attending just because family wanted them to, but their heart wasn’t in it. Often they’d drop out with student debt and no degree to show for it.

*or at least when they’re young

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[-] Lightor@lemmy.world 60 points 1 week ago

My parents separated when I was really young, roughly 5 yrs old. As I grew up and had visitation with my dad he always drilled into me "women just want a man who can provide for them, in the end they all just want money." Being young and obviously not knowing how crazy my dad was yet, I believed him for a long time.

Turns out when you treat people like they just want you for your money, that's the only kind of people who will put up with you. Kinda self fulfilling. Found a nice lady now, happily married and caring about each other, not just money.

[-] Vanth@reddthat.com 54 points 1 week ago

Ages like milk...

Drink a full glass of milk at every meal. Otherwise, your bones will turn to pudding and you'll get kidnapped at the mall because you'll be too soft to put up a fight. Or whatever scare scenarios Big Milk pushed in the US in the 80s and 90s.

Now everyone's drinking nut and oat milk because of health reasons and also drinking the milk of another mammal is kinda weird.

[-] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 1 week ago

Because drinking "milk" from nuts and oats isn't weird?

People have been drinking animal milk for thousands of years so the weird ones are those pretending some heavily processed industry process isn't weird.

[-] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

it's water pressed through oats/nuts to add a little flavor, not from a nut teet.

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[-] friendlymessage@feddit.org 21 points 1 week ago

heavily processed

Always great to put that into arguments. It doesn't really mean anything but it sounds dubious.

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[-] sbv@sh.itjust.works 46 points 1 week ago

Find what you love, and then figure out how to make money on it.

It worked for me, but not my spouse. Sometimes you just need to find something you're happy enough doing to make the income.

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[-] Pyrin@kbin.melroy.org 43 points 1 week ago

Any dumb and vaguely open-ended advice. Like "just be yourself".

What if you're improving yourself because the real you sucked? Do you just give that all up and return to what you were? Whoever first said that piece of advice, obviously didn't think it through enough.

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[-] Krudler@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago

Effectively ALL of what I was told about what makes a satisfying and successful life. I was told the right thing to do is work hard, go to school, get a good stable job, get married, settle down, have kids, buy a house, own several depreciating assets.

Life is about being happy. Nothing else. Do what makes you happy, because that car, vacation, or other piece of consumer shit won't. Nor will living by scripts somebody else wrote for you.

I had my house paid off at 30 and was traveling 5-6 times a year. High-level in the gaming, lottery and promotions industries. Misery. Now I have a humble life and I paint and craft things and I go dancing. And I'm happy. I could pick up the tools again and make a highly successful Steam game, but I won't. I already proved my point in my career and creative output, and I don't want to anymore.

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[-] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago

~2004. My highschool civics teacher told the class that real estate was always a good investment because it only went up. I didn't really trust him at the time though.

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[-] Kaiyoto@lemmy.world 38 points 1 week ago

Work hard and do your best at work and you'll go places.

Yeah I got moved around several times in the office. That's about it.

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[-] nycki@lemmy.world 36 points 1 week ago

Don't believe anything you read on Wikipedia.

[-] portuga@lemmy.world 37 points 1 week ago

That infuriates me. “Oh but anyone can edit”. Yes, but see for how many seconds your stupid edit will last. It’s the single most rich and accurate encyclopedia humanity has seen, ffs.

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[-] kreskin@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

"When you first move into a house dont make any improvements for at least 6 months."

I now see that its Terrible advice.

[-] riquisimo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 1 week ago

Haha, no.

When you first move in you see all the flaws that the previous owners got used to living with. Fix them while you're still motivated to.

[-] Subtracty@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago

Don't make any improvements is a crazy proposition. But I agree with living in the place 6 months before doing anything drastic unless it is obvious. I live in a very old house. It took us a while to see the reasoning behind some of the features in our house. We were tempted to scrap anything that wasn't typical in new constructions, but that would have been a waste of money.

I was happy saving up for a few months and observing the house to see where my money was best spent.

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[-] mlg@lemmy.world 27 points 1 week ago

You can always find it cheaper on Ebay.

This is actually somewhat true again now that Amazon has gone full monopoly abuse, but for a while Ebay was nothing but 1:1 with Amazon sellers and a serious lack of auctions.

Although you can go much lower with Ali Express and Temu, albeit with risk invovled.

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