Never loan anyone anything unless you're willing to give it to them, because that could well turn out to be exactly what you're doing.
ETA another one that just came to me, that I've always liked because it's a witty turn of phrase in addition to being useful:
If you're doing something that leads you to wonder if you should have some safety gear (gloves, particle mask, hearing protection, etc.), then the answer is "Yes."
You don't have to be good at your hobbies—you only need to enjoy them.
Take care of your body. Teeth, bones, joints, muscles, and skin can all be repaired but it's never as good as a factory original.
Also, those repairs cost time and money. My father in law is almost 20 years younger than my dad and can't do as much in a day as my dad. He's shortened his quality life because he thought shrugging off problems was what you should do.
Money can be exchanged for goods and services
Don't play rigged games.
Do what you think is right, but actually take some time to think about if it's right or just feels right.
Being right and being wrong feel the exact same until challenged by facts, challenge your own beliefs, use the Socratic method if you need a starting point.
"Don’t play rigged games" makes so many nonvoters.
huh, good observation - my instant thought was casinos and "climbing the corporate ladders"
(I fully disagree with not voting but your point still stands)
Find one small thing you can cut out and save that money every week in a savings account.
When the market crashes like it did in 2008 and 2020, take every one of those dollars and put it in stocks, because during a crash, you can often get high value stocks at a huge discount that wouldn't exist in normal market conditions.
Wait 2-3 years for the market recovery and sell that stock at a profit.
Also, don't wait until your 30's to get a set of silk sheets.
If you're happy alone, be alone. You don't have to get married. You don't have to get kids. Those things suck to have if you do not want them in the first place.
Time in the market vs timing the market, discount might buy you a couple years worth of time but if you ever investing as you go you’d most likely have made more even with the crash.
Also, bamboo sheets for me!
Time in the market vs timing the market
Absolutely a good way to go as well, especially if you drop that cash in fee-free index funds (Vanguard's a good way to go) or an ETF like VTI. This is absolutely the best way to go if you're an undisciplined investor, lack patience, or just want to set it, forget it, and watch your growth over time.
I just think it's also useful to have cash on the side so you can take advantage of crashes. You only get a handful of them in a lifetime and they are 100% the best opportunity to buy. I paid off my student loans with profits I made grabbing oil stocks in March 2020 for pennies on the dollar.
"Treat others as you would have them treat you" is garbage, utter fucking trash
instead of the shitass golden rule, I prefer the platinum rule: "Treat others how they want to be treated"
That's a good point, masochists have a pretty big loophole to Golden Rule, don't they?
IDK about advice per say but it kinda fits. My favorite quote from rocky.
“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward."
work does not define you and it doesn't reflect your self worth.
there's a very high chance you're getting rob while doing it too so do it as shitty as possible (without risking your food)
"Don't compare yourself to others." Everyone develops at their own pace. This also helps in building a good self-esteem.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Incredible advice
Without a base, without a trace.
What does this mean lmao?
It's the rule of thumb when trying to avoid losing things up your bum.
Up yer butt.
Sage advice I got from my dad: being kind to others greases the wheels of diplomacy, and it doesn't make them a bit more bulletproof.
Listen more, talk less.
The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear – Rumi
If everyone adhered to this, the world would be much quieter.
Talk less, smile more?
Something's are so important they're worth doing badly.
Mind your business
Credit cards should be used exclusively for discounts and to build your credit. Only use them if you have the resources to pay the balance in full every month so you’ll never pay interest.
Credit cards for anything over £100 online, for the built-in fraud protection - https://www.moneysupermarket.com/credit-cards/guide-to-credit-card-protection/
I shared this before here, but it completely changed the way I live my life:
Perfect is the enemy of good enough.
So please, give yourself grace and understanding especially if you are a perfectionist. Go at your own pace.
We had a phrase in graduate school for group projects… “good enough, move on”. Or GEMO. When we were getting too wrapped up in the details someone would say “should we just GEMO?” And there’d invariably be a sigh of relief as everyone agreed yes, it’s good enough, let’s move on.
"Good enough is perfect"
When dropping into a half pipe, overcommit the lean. The last thing you want is to slip over backwards. Slipping forwards is fine, you just might have to roll.
Try to care a little less (say 1%) each day about what others think of you. I don't mean be uncivil or degenerate per se but rather try to say yes to yourself more and less to others until you feel there's a better balance. People care way to much about what others think about them at massive cost to themselves and its not healthy or actually even desireable.
The person who is most authentic and self-nourished will always win, sort of an extension to the notion that the person who cares the least has the most power. Relationships come and go but you gotta learn to live with and as you and to chase only what you know in your heart to be correct for you
"you will stop caring what others think about you when you realise how little they do"
I hate this advice, but because its true for all tasks also:
"You don't need to wait til 1:45 to start studying."
So just start at 1:32:30.
How to set your side-view mirrors correctly on a car.
Make your car safer to drive.
Mirror setting video (1:40 min)
2 bathroom ones for ya
Pee before you leave
Wipe til it's white
What if it goes from brown to red
Get a bidet.
Say what you mean, mean what you say.
If its in doubt or you're conflicted, say no.
For everything else there's maybe
"Be yourself." is an excellent summary of your post description.
Migrate some of your media intake and software use, to Free Culture options.
Saves money, increases the amount of free-sharing and mutual-aid in the world.
Avoids spyware, DRM, AI slop, tracking, and assorted other nasties.
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