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Do you prefer a polite request with an implicit punishment-threat or an outright demand with an explicit punishment-threat? Also, why? (leminal.space)

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[-] TheV2@programming.dev 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

If I understand this correctly, the polite request is meant to be passive aggressive flattery and the outright demand is the honest tone that gets to the point. I think in written form I prefer the polite request to avoid panicking immediately. In person, I'd panic anyway. So I prefer the outright demand, because I can't handle passive aggressive attacks at all. Usually I'll reflect their politeness before I understand the matter and then when they assume that I'm not taking it seriously, they get more intense which scares me long-term.

EDIT: No, actually, forget it. I'd prefer the outright demand even in written form. I get chills when I think about encounters with passive aggressive demands...

[-] FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago

Be honest and open. I might punch you in the face for threatening me, but you shouldn't go around threatening people now should you?

[-] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

I prefer clarity.

[-] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago

I feel like the results/consequences are the same and that’s what I'm against.

[-] big_fat_fluffy@leminal.space 1 points 1 day ago

Like you're in a slasher but pretend you're in a hallmark.

[-] slazer2au@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Both of those are demands.

[-] superkret@feddit.org 2 points 1 day ago

[-] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Who is that

[-] NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Death penalty is wrong.

[-] big_fat_fluffy@leminal.space 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Replace death with any heavy executive-issued penalty. The point here is the polite-implicit vs the impolite-explicit. (Ok i reworded it)

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 7 points 1 day ago

"Hi! Please put all your candy in the bag, or I'll smash your pumpkins"

vs.

"Give me the candy or I'll smash your pumpkins"

?? Is that what you're asking?

Is there any backstory to your request?

[-] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

It's more like "trick or treat" vs "candy or we egg this joint".

The one is social accepted, polite, and doesn't overtly state an intention to harm but it does imply it. The other is exactly the same, but it's direct, no implication, just one or the other.

Another example would be "you gotta pay us for protection, you wouldn't want anything to happen while you're here." Vs. " Pay up or we cut you".

[-] big_fat_fluffy@leminal.space 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

No, it's "please give me your candy" (with the implied threat). Vs "give me your candy or I'll smash".

(Also, I reworded the post because you people are so literal and easily distracted.)

[-] Today@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Probably the second (unless it's something as common as trick or treat) as the implication may not hit me until later. You also have to judge the likelihood of follow thru- like when a kid get threatened with forever grounding.

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 0 points 1 day ago

Good luck with your research.

[-] NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

The point here is the polite-implicit vs the impolite-explicit.

But there is no politeness in threatening.

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